Problems are just puzzles
There’s a problem you’re avoiding. Maybe it’s so big that the mere thought fills you with dread. Maybe you’re distracting yourself with animal cro...
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It's not about 'fixing' yourself
“Don’t meditate to fix yourself, to heal yourself, to improve yourself, to redeem yourself; rather, do it as an act of love. In this way there i...
The art of listening
I have a bad habit. And that is: I often listen to respond, rather than to understand. I’m so eager to say something that I miss out on the jui...
Reinvent Yourself Regularly
‘Tribe of Mentors’ has taught us ways to say ‘no’, so here’s yet another golden nugget from this thicc book. This one comes from Peter Guber, whi...
Learning is actually hekkin fun!
Who knew, that I’d be spending my time learning economics ……. WILLINGLY?! No one’s got a gun to my head making me draw up a supply and demand grap...
Consequences of being inflexible
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn” Alvin Toff...
C L A R I T Y
OH BOY WHAT A FANTASTIC WORD! Not only does it have the perfect ratio between consonants + vowels, but it’s something we all need more of in our l...
Small talk leads to big talk
So I’m guilty of jumping straight into deep and meaningfuls, like those with total strangers I meet at supermarkets. ...
Generosity is not a transaction
In a business course I’m currently completing, the other students and I discussed generosity. We all had the understanding that when you give more,...
How to forgive yourself for the past
It’s so easy to think of what you ‘could’ve’, ‘should’ve’, ‘would’ve’ done. “Oh I should’ve said hi to that person”, “Oh I should’ve known better...
Just see what you can get away with
I’m currently reading Jen Sincero’s “You are a badass” (have mixed feeling - will do a proper book review when I’m finished) … and this gem came up...
Wrong decisions don't exist
BEFORE YOU SCOFF AND THINK YOU’VE SPOTTED A LOOPHOLE: What I discuss is not related to murder, adultery, saying that bohemian rhapsody is not a go...
Failure isn't what we think it is
First, please do yourself a favour and listen to ‘Ologies with Alie Ward’ ‘s episode on volitional psychology (ie PROCRASTINATION). While hilario...
The art of setting boundaries...against ourselves
I’m bad at saying no to others. I’m worse at saying no to myself. For example, I’ll pile on things to keep me occupied during isolation, and wh...
Common meditation struggles and how I overcame them
So I think, A LOT. When I started meditating 2-3 years ago via headspace, my goal was to quiet my SEVERELY overactive mind and be MINDFUL. I’d...
Vulnerability is SEXY
Here’s something that frustrates me: The discomfort of crying in front of people. I grew up in an environment where you showed others your happy...
Thinking you've already lost before you begin
I just listened to Gabby Beckford’s ted talk, about the drain in confidence we experience growing up. The initial “I can be anyone!” or “I can do...
The true meaning of being 'productive'
Yesterday, I found myself stumbling onto this Quora thread about what it really means to be productive. Here are the answers that stood out to me...
A Toast to the Most Iconic Duo
It’s a relationship so strong, so genuine, so real. It’s hard to imagine life without this duo, whom I’ve depended on throughout exchange, and cu...
How to redefine guilt
What is guilt? Why does it eat away at us when we know we’ve done something wrong? It’s that silent, yet sustained whisper of “why did you do it?...
Achieving balance
2 days ago, I chatted with my friend about topics including liking the smell of petrol, to our wellbeing and thoughts during isolation… And a cert...
"Have to..." or "Get to..."?
Yesterday I watched Jenn Im’s video about her 5 mistakes as an entrepreneur. She discusses things like wearing her emotions on her sleeve, to getti...
A flow of thought post about identity
I’ve been going to singing lessons for 2 months now. ‘Be a better singer’ has been one of my life goals that I’ve finally got around to, despite ...
Why?
It’s time for a check-in. Just a small one. With a simple question. So give it a chance, and it might just change your current trajectory. “W...
Merely ship it
‘Don’t say “I have no good ideas”, start by saying… “I don’t have enough bad ideas.” Seth Godin In Seth’s podcast episode ‘no such thing (as write...
COVID-19'S silver lining
Where there’s chaos, fear and uncertainty…there’s also connection, generosity and creativity. The current pandemic has tested (and is testing) ou...
How to find your CORE values
A while back, I made a youtube video titled ‘HUMAN VALUES How to live true to yourself!’. This is version 2.0. I’ve...
Our lord and saviour: Communication
Communication is like a superpower everyone knows about but doesn’t use. And it baffles me why I, and many others often use this as a last resort...
The scarcity dilemma
Recently I was at a crossroad. Having just attended a self development day event, I was swept up in emotion and dropped $3.5 K on a public speaki...
Are people 'gifted'?
Growing up, I was convinced that people were just gifted. Whether academics, singing, high jump or story writing… you were obviously born with it...
No A, only Q
I want to know if I’m right or wrong, it’s as simple as that. When I’m asked to solve a problem, I’ll attempt it no doubt. There’s cogs whirling ...
A year in review
2019 has now gone and done, and it’s crazy how much has happened in only 12 months. I’ve met an incredible amount of new people, formed new frien...
Let's just not talk it out
If I just stay quiet and do nothing, everything will work out just fine… …is what we internalise to avoid confrontation. Because we as a society...
Make happy
Being sad is not bad. It’s what helps us experience happiness. It’s natural to feel down, and experience negative emotions. But the silver lini...
Please make the decision for me, thanks
I don’t like to use the word ‘hate’… So instead… I SEVERELY dislike making decisions. Most of our life, decisions were made for us - whether by...
Feel the fear, and do it anyway
I love the idea of being uncomfortable. As soon as you have to do something outside of your comfort zone, the fear kicks in. I believe what sep...
Killing off our inner child
The system’s really good at killing off our creativity, our curiosity, and our ability to fail. We don’t want to do more than what we’re expected ...
The fear of failure
This is a juicy topic. We’ve all fallen for it. That subtle yet deadly whisper of ‘you’re most certainly going to fail’, ‘why even try’ or ‘just ...
'I don't feel like it.'
But then…when do we actually? To create something meaningful takes effort and time. To do something that we label a ‘hurdle’, an ‘inconvenience’ ...
The Reassurance Epidemic
We need reassurance. Reassurance that we’re doing the right thing. That what we produce will be good work, as determined by an external figure. ...
I'm Inspired
Listening to Seth Godin’s ‘AKIMBO’ has got me all inspired and motivated. I honestly had no idea what I wanted ‘Dose of Joy’ to become when I cre...